Yikes! Time flew!
I went back to work and the next thing I know, it’s December! It’s been a busy couple of months. There have been ups, and downs, and plateaus of contentment. In October I picked back up with the online dating…..that has been an adventure. I figured out a better way to write my bio to weed out the incompatible me and leave only the ones who have been forewarned about who I am. So, my bio looks like this:
Here is the nitty gritty:
I have no kids and have never been married.
I like the color orange, cooking and baking, horror movies, audiobooks, and plants. According to my friends I am “an amazing woman” and “a real live unicorn” (the cryptid kind not the sexual partner kind).
Things that typically scare people off are:
*I'm in the process of getting a doctorate.
*I'm a pagan witch.
*I cannot have children because I no longer have a uterus.
*I have sleep apnea and sleep with a CPAP
*I'm very independent and can take care of myself. I don't need a partner, I WANT a partner.
*I am an open and honest communicator. If you ask a question I am going to give you a straight honest answer even if I don't think you will like it or it paints me in an embarrassing light.
Still with me? Here is a little more about me then:
I’m fully vaccinated. Easy going and a little bit quirky…but in a good way. I have a full time job and am independent and self sufficient. Some of my favorite things:
Family,
Cryptids,
Quality time,
Honesty,
Horror movies (or movies in general),
Kindness,
Transformational leadership,
Audio books,
Music,
Open communication,
Consent,
Cooking/baking,
Creating things,
Making people laugh,
People who aren’t afraid to be themselves,
Random adventures,
The ocean.
I know some people say they are an open book, but don’t really mean it. I do, so feel free to ask me anything. As I said earlier, I’ll give you an honest answer…even if it is awkward or embarrassing.
I went from having a bunch of intros and awkward conversations, to a new one every once in a while. Depending on how the conversation goes the next hurdle to jump is the ownership of a v-card. That conversation can still go really well, or downhill really fast. While I have talked to several men over the weeks, Instill haven’t met anyone or gone on any dates. I HAVE gotten a lot of unsolicited dick pics…and one or two that went with the text conversation I was having. I’ve sent naked pictures of myself sans face (cringe…yet somehow liberating). And I’ve been propositioned several times…..sometimes in great descriptive detail. The propositions never go anywhere. I’d probably be in a ho phase if I wasn’t demisexual (Google it).
The best thing that happened with online dating so far is that I made a really good friend. It’s nice to have someone to talk to who gets me and makes me feel good about myself. I in turn try to do the same for him. We met over a year ago and I am grateful that we did. It has been fun to watch him grow over the last year. It’s also been SO nice to talk to someone who is as open and honest about who they are as I am. Although he doesn’t know it. Today he helped me decide that I am giving up caffeine. Wish me luck.
I have really fallen in love with myself lately. My confidence and self assurance has gone way up now that my body isn’t trying to kill me and my hormones have balanced out. I even did a boudoir shoot last week. I did my shoot through All Things Boudoir and had my hair and makeup done by Jessica Cadot. I looked and felt amazing. The session was super fun and empowering. I have my photo reveal next week and I’m super excited. Perhaps I will post a picture or two here.
Lastly, I have made progress in my dissertation, but I’m not where I want to be. I’m having a terrible case of unmotivated writers block. I’ve gotta get my rear in gear!
Until next time my lovely friends: be kind, have empathy, and let that light of yours shine. (((Hugs)))
